Even with busy schedules, very little extra time or energy... you won't have to plan a thing!
by the end of the day it is just easier to...
get some rest because you have to do this all again tomorrow
get a minute to yourself or for yourself, exercise or do a hobby
catch up on social media, binge some netflix, or finish up some work
It has become the norm to get so busy creating a LIFE together that we forget to create a LOVE together.
My partner & I struggled with intimacy from the beginning, add to this my struggles with childhood sexual abuse, him losing his mom three months into our relationship, me starting my business and accumulating tons of debt, him working across the country, him starting a new career, me hitting burnout, having a baby, baby isn't sleeping well, our parents developing health issues, & you know...we are still trying to shower, exercise, eat, & drink enough water!
We would talk but things would never seem to change. I would dread going to bed together & pray he wouldn't touch me. I felt hopeless, disappointed, disconnected, & was constantly questioning our relationship.
I KNEW there was a better way & wished someone would come show us the way. This is why I created...
No planning required. Just show up & get ready to:
You are not just watching. You are discussing, practicing, & doing exercises. You choose if you want to date monthly or weekly. Each date takes a maximum of 90 minutes to complete; you can do it all at once, break it up, or complete the QUICK DATE option if you are really short on time.
You do a lot that goes unnoticed or unappreciated, until now. I get it, it is easy to take our partners for granted & when life gets busy it seems more efficient to just mention what is not working.
Even couples who ARE showing their love & appreciation, are doing it in a way that their partner can not actually RECEIVE it (or worse, their partner actually hates it and it annoys them).
This week you will discover & practice showing each other love/appreciation in the ways you actually crave.
No one can push our buttons better than our partner. Most couples filter what they say so they don't offend or cause a fight.
This week you will stop being nervous or scared to bring up difficult conversations. Stop feeling the need to protect your partners feelings, or not get the truth out because you are worried about offending them.
With a few communication tricks you will be amazed how ease this can be.
Also, discover your self sabotaging patterns that pull you further apart so you can stop them from stealing your intimacy.
Most couples only seek growth together when they are in trouble & the rest of the time they are on autopilot. They might be working on their goals separately but rarely do that have a vision & structure to grow their love/ intimacy over time.
This week you will learn what is truly important to you both about your relationship & create a vision for your future about where this LOVE is going & how you want it to grow. This helps to reveal why we are motivated to spend time, money, energy on different things. We will align your relationship values so can make what is important to you both a priority.
So many relationships are void of all intimacy because somewhere along the lines we made all forms of connection lead to sex. We stop hugging, kissing, flirting, looking in each others eyes, etc.
This week we will reintroduce you to the magic of intimacy without an agenda.
You will leave with fun intimacy increasing exercises so when you are spending time together you are actually growing closer together & stirring up the chemistry.
Ok, this changed my life. I am going to introduce you a new way of thinking about getting turned on (even if you feel like your not very sexual or struggle to get turned on).
This will you will get the truth about what turns your partner on (& what doesn't). No more mind-reading.
You will also learn how to ask & get your needs met. Hey, you might be starved for sex or connection, I GET IT!
You will get plenty of practice getting clear on your needs, asking for what you want, & will feel surprisingly safe doing so.
You might be thinking, "we talk all the time". If we are honest, most of us have swallowed more conversations then you can count. There can be years of built of conversations, so much so that you don't even know where to start.
From MONEY, MENTAL ILLNESS, PARENTING, to FAMILY ISSUES, a relationship needs to have the skills to navigate them all.
This week you will learn to how take each others personal needs & desires that you have learned so far and plan surprises & dates that keeps things new and fun.
2 personalized date experiences will be put them on the calendar, these are carefully crafted for each other based off of your values, how you receive love, & what turns you on.
Lucky you, after these 8 weeks you already have the habit of meeting weekly for 1 hour. I am going to show you how to keep this going.
Life gets busy, so our Intimacy Interruption system will ensure you both stay connected & know what to do on a weekly basis to keep moving forward.
End this week with massive relief knowing everything you want to talk about or say to your partner has either been said or is in the que for a later discussion (I will show you how).
& I get that starting conversations or knowing what conversations you need to have is the hardest part, we will set you up for weeks to come.
You invest into things like TV, gyms, phones, cars, & houses...What about your relationship?
My name is Janelle Fraser, I am a relationship coach with nearly a decade of experience, sexual abuse survivor, a partner in an 11 year relationship, & a mom. Which basically means, I have had to implement every ounce of what I will teach you. I created this work to get myself out of the pain I was in...
I experience no long lasting frustrations, only have enjoyable intimate experiences, continually impressed with how well my partner communicates, regular meaningful conversations, I feel love and appreciated most of the time, I know what turns me on & how to get my needs met, I feel safe bringing any conversations to my partner, we are continually trying new things for our relationship...we are LOVERS!
1. YOU DON'T NEED THEM. You can be the leader in your relationship & just bring these questions to them, you can ask questions from the coaches for you both, & when they are ready (which will likely be soon if you take the lead) you can do a date night together. You just need to lead.
2. Don't convince them, sell them! How do THEY want your relationship to improve? What are THEIR needs? Shine a light on how doing to this experience is going to help you give them that!
We HAVE to know what is in it for US...we are selfish beings. Let him know what is in it for THEM and what it will do for them.
If you are really short on time one month, you can do the QUICK DATE option which drastically shortens the date but gives you some quick points, discussion topics, & a challenge.
When you have more space, you can do the complete experience.
This work would be extremely complimentary to therapy or private coaching, if that is what you choose. You might need extra support from a coach or another professional if there is a history of abuse, serious depression or anxiety, mental illness, or if your are personally really struggling outside of your relationship. Even with these factors, this work would be extremely helpful but it might just be incomplete for some of your presenting issues. Also, most of my clients say "I got more in a day with you than years of therapy"...so there is that!
First of all, this is COACHING! So you can take a breath knowing you are not going to therapy. Nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are just really brave & honest about what you need in a way that most people are not. We are not finding out what is WRONG with you, diagnosing anything, or blaming anyone for anything. You will not be talking about problems for hours on end or digging up old trauma. It is expected that you will actually have a lot of fun doing this!
I get it! A whole bunch of talking when all you want is a better sex life might sound awful. Because of this, I infuse touch challenges into the date experiences as well as show ways to get your physical needs met. Sex is just a symptom of what is really going on in your relationship. Once you are able to communicate clearly we will discover what is really going on so you can deal with it. So YES, this is essential in helping your sex life.
Alright, this is the moment I am going to coach you (I hope I have your permission).
1. Think of all the things you spend money on now, what do they add to your life? Do they truly make you feel the way you want to feel? or are you left longing for more? Most of us do temporary self care like our hair or nails or he goes snowmobiling, or we eat out and drink on the weekends, etc. We plan trips, live in fancy houses, and drive nice cars...but still feel this void. Redirecting money is possible & if this is important to you, you can make it happen.
2. You likely cannot afford not to, what is having this relationship the way it is costing you? Your happiness? maybe your health? how it is impacting your kids (yes, they notice)? where are you heading (divorce)?
I am not here to convince you or sell you something you do not want or need. I am here to remind you that if you want it, make it happen!
You can absolutely enjoy dates on your own, you will learn a lot about yourself, & your relationships as we result. You can do them with a partner when your ready or perhaps you just bring the magic you learn back to your relationship!
Thank goodness. Most people wait until their relationship is bad before they make a change.
Many club couples have GOOD partners & GOOD relationships. But they want more out of their relationship or to make it ever better!
It is common to experience a disagreement or find yourself in a problem you can't seem to get out of. This is why you get access to a $50 discount + no tax on private couples coaching sessions with Janelle
You are backed by my 30-DAY MONEY TRANSFER GUARANTEE. If for whatever reason, the date experience does not feel right or it is not the place you want to start, simply request a transfer within the first 30 days and your entire investment can be transferred toward private sessions or any other offers. Your investment is not refundable.