Attempting to untangling challenges in our sexuality, intimacy, & relationships on our own is often an extremely defeating vicious cycle. Let me show you how simple it can be...
This is a confidential & private 1-1 session where we will:
I will learn important details about your situation & I will ask you the kind of questions that give you insight & solutions you never saw before. I will share with you some of your major blindspots.
I will share with you the 1-3 action steps that need your attention to feel the kind of changes you are craving. Most people feel a surge of hope & excitement before we even get to this stage.
If we both want to work together, I will share your options with you. We will make a plan that fits your schedule, budget, goals, & comfort level. You control the pace of the changes you want.
Once you book, I will send you all the details. Depending on our schedules & locations, it will either be an online video consult or an in office consult.
Don't convince them, sell them! How do THEY want your relationship to improve? What are THEIR needs? Shine a light on how doing to this is going to help you give them that!
We HAVE to know what is in it for US...we are selfish beings. Let him know what is in it for THEM and what it will do for them.
Finally, maybe you need to lead first. Maybe you need to start your personal shift before you can lead him into that change you both want to experience.
This work would be extremely complimentary to therapy if that is what you choose. You might another professional but we will be able to determine this in the consult.
Also, most of my clients say "I got more in a day with you than years of therapy"...so there is that!
First of all, this is COACHING! So you can take a breath knowing you are not going to therapy. Nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are just really brave & honest about what you need in a way that most people are not. We are not finding out what is WRONG with you, diagnosing anything, or blaming anyone for anything. You will not be talking about problems for hours on end or digging up old trauma. It is expected that you will actually have a lot of fun doing this work!
I do not believe there is a perfect order. You start where you can start. OFTEN, one partner has to start the change first within themselves & inspire the other partner into it. Sometimes, both partners come to me from the beginning. BOTH ARE PERFECT!
This is possible you will fight & it is my intention to help you learn to communicate in such a way that prevents "fights". I create A LOT of rules and structure in the experiences I give you so if you follow them, this will help to prevent any unnecessary tension.
Alright, this is the moment I am going to coach you (I hope I have your permission).
1. Think of all the things you spend money on now, what do they add to your life? Do they truly make you feel the way you want to feel? or are you left longing for more? Most of us do temporary self care like our hair or nails or he goes snowmobiling, or we eat out and drink on the weekends, etc. We plan trips, live in fancy houses, and drive nice cars...but still feel this void. Redirecting money is possible & if this is important to you, you can make it happen.
2. You likely cannot afford not to, what is having this relationship the way it is costing you? Your happiness? maybe your health? how it is impacting your kids (yes, they notice)? where are you heading (divorce)?
I am not here to convince you or sell you something you do not want or need. I am here to remind you that if you want it, make it happen!
No, sorry. If you are only willing to invest in your relationship if your insurance will cover it...it might be worth your while to ask yourself why. It is a personal choice for me to not have my work covered through insurance. Clients use to only support themselves with a change to the level that their insurance company would pay for it. If we really want to change, we must be willing to put a little skin in the game... if ya know what I'm saying!
Most people OVER estimate how hard it is going to be to make a change & UNDER estimate how painful, costly, & hard it will be to stay where they are. You have NOTHING to lose.