Most women don't even know what the problem is, how their partners can help them, or if they even want things to change. Sometimes, it feels like "I'm just not a touchy person" or "maybe we are not intimately compatible". Women tell me all the time that:
Women pray their partner won't touch them so they won't have to say no...again. Or just do it, because they don't want them to be disappointed...again. Eventually, they just stop going to bed together, someone stays up to work or watch a show. This cycle is too much to handle every night.
If they do it tonight, they can relax for a few days. Or they do it, purely because they feel like they should or have to, or so their partner doesn't cheat. They often fake or exaggerate their enjoyment & push through discomfort.
It is like their body is pulling away & resisting touch as soon as they feel their partner. It hurts knowing how much they are hurting their partner by not being able to show them affection. They begin feeling like something must be wrong with them.
They bounce from idea to idea trying to find the answers yet slightly afraid to find them...
I know you are busy & have A LOT more to worry about than what goes on between your sheets. And I bet you feel like you could live without ever doing it again. But, that lingering feeling of emptiness, blah, & crave for more is leading you to what is possible for you. It is possible for you to:
…but experiencing these changes is only possible when you are willing to try some new things & have some new conversations.
Your experience must be professionally guided, take into account ALL the complex parts that are keeping you stuck, & help you to move this knowledge into your relationship.
You have spent enough time not knowing why this is happening or knowing what to do. You have had enough conversations that don't change anything.
It is time to make real progress, feel some relief, & enjoy effortless intimacy with your partner. All play. No Work.
That’s why I’m so excited to introduce you to my work:
"I no longer think that I am a "broken" woman. I hadn't been prioritizing my needs because I didn't know what my needs were. Prior to Janelle's coaching, I only knew about one type of intimacy (sex) and that was very limiting and anxiety-inducing. Janelle taught me that intimacy isn't just sex & introduced me to a range of options. Janelle taught me how to:
My name is Janelle Fraser, I am a relationship coach with nearly a decade of experience, sexual abuse survivor, a partner in an 13 year relationship, & a mom. Which basically means, I have had to personally implement every ounce of what I will teach you. I felt JUST like you & now...
I now only have enjoyable intimate experiences, I no longer question my relationship, I know what turns me on & how to get my needs met, I feel safe bringing any intimate conversation to my partner, we are continually trying new things for our relationship...we are LOVERS!
"Prior to finding Janelle, I felt a lot of shame. I didn't have a very high libido, I found it difficult to get over past sexual trauma, & and I just didn't find sex appealing. For the last two year, I had been looking for a teacher who would understand me. I found Janelle (in March 2020). She embodies an amazing duality: she shares her personal story so you don’t feel alone but is objective enough to coach you through your specific situation."
"I told myself that I was "broken" because I didn't have any "real" problem in my relationship. I was hard on myself for not being happy with what I had & for wanting more.
However, as soon as I got rid of my internalized stigma that younger individuals and newer relationships had to be sex-driven, couldn't be struggling, & need work. I was able to apply Janelle's advice to my young relationship. Everything changed!"
and how to establish an exciting playing ground within it, whether that be sexual or not, and no matter how "dead" the relationship might seem."